How was your weekend?
Mine got me thinking about my growth in life.
How often do you measure your growth in life? Wait! Do you even measure your growth at all? If you do, ever feel like you are not growing at your desired rate? Maybe there are certain things you are holding on to, which is in turn holding you back in life. Or Perhaps, you want to do certain things, but you feel like you are not up to task, or you’re not enough.
Doubt is the single greatest enemy of confidence. It most likely to exist when we refuse to let go of our fears.
There are several reasons accountable to why people don’t let go of their fears and doubts.
Well, at the end it results to;
• Stealing your inner Peace and Joy.
• Limiting your potential.
• Stagnancy in life .
• Killing your ideas and dreams.
• Causing you to miss Gods best.
• A lot others.
In this journey of life, my personal growth and self development, is one thing I work on regularly.
Letting go is a very important step to personal growth. And thanks to God and these few tips, I can say that growth game is pretty strong. I’m sharing them with you with the hope that it would be useful to you too.
• Accept who you are;
You should learn that there are certain things you are and aren’t, there are certain things you can do and can’t do.
Accept that fact, you can’t be or do everything!
• Let go of Anger,Bitterness and Frustration;
Forgive those have offended you, forgive whatever situation that is making you angry or bitter, most importantly, forgive yourself. Do it, not for them, but for your peace!
• Let go of Past Failures;
To be successful, you need to change your orientation about failure. Failure is really just a feedback telling you to evaluate your experience, learn from it, use the lessons/information gained to adjust your plan, and then try a new approach. If it fails, learn from your mistakes, then try again, keep learning and keep trying until you win.
Falling doesn’t make you a failure,not rising after your fall is what makes you a failure.
“It doesn’t matter where you’ve been. What matters is what direction your feet are headed right now”.
• Stop comparing yourself to others;
Comparing yourself will cause doubt.
You should never compare yourself to another for two reasons: One, you’ll always find someone who’s doing a better job than you, and you’ll get discouraged. And two, you’ll always find somebody you’re doing a better job than, and you will be filled with pride. Don’t compare yourself. You are unique, so you are incomparable!
( 2 Corinthians 10:12 says that people who compare themselves to other people are foolish). Enough said!
• Stop looking for validation based on the opinion of others;
I rarely fall for this because I’ve always known what I wanted when it comes to my craft and career, and with my progress so far I can say that God is right
behind me ahead of me.
But most times we rely on other people’s judgment for validation. In relation to what Ibukun wrote, God should be the only one to validate your craft and career.
Everyone’s got opinions, don’t let any bring you down because only God’s opinion matters! Got that?
•Leave your comfort zone;
Yes! That zone is comfortable but it resistant to growth. If you really want to grow, you should step out of your comfort zone.This is actually easier said than done because we often don’t like been inconvenienced. I’m more of an introvert but I never really achieved anything until I chose to step out of my comfort zone (and well, I’m still in the process of cracking my shell).
• Indulge in positive energy;
Indulge yourself in positive energy. Be optimistic. See the good side to every situation. One of the biggest
secrets to my growth is doing away with negative energy and staying away from bad vibes. Surrounding myself with people (intellectuals) with whom I can learn from,people who are optimistic and are full of good vibes. It works!
• Have self-confidence;
Believe in you, I don’t know how much more I can lay emphasis on this but trust me, No one else can believe in you like YOU.
Besides God will never give you something bigger than you. That means, for him to give you certain skills and ability, he knows you can make use of them (for good), so why doubt your creator?
“Be bold and strong! Banish fear and doubt! For remember, the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” (Joshua 1:9 LB)
•Trust in God,he is the ultimate.
His thoughts for us are of good and not evil. His grace will never disgrace you. He knows the best for you, therefore put all of your trust in him.
Not matter how much work you put, at the end of the day, only him can take you to where you want to be.
This is a new week.
God has given you a fresh start, an opportunity to accept who you are, to let go of the anger, bitterness and past failures, to stop comparing and looking for approval , step out of your comfort zone, be full of positive energy,believe in you and most importantly trust in God.
Don’t be too busy to work on your personal growth.
I hope this helps you like it’s helping me.
Let go of it all and embrace the process in positivity this new week!
PS ; Thanks to Ibukun for providing me some of these wonderful quotes, she responded to me on a short notice. She is such an amazing writer. Check out her work(s) on Instagram – @ibukunwrites
Have a wonderful week!